Thursday, April 18, 2013

How to be a friend

We all go through trials and tribulations in life. Some are relatively minor while others can be earth-shattering in their impact. Whether it's an external pressure or an internal struggle, having someone come alongside you and help you through it is of immeasurable worth.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 makes it abundantly clear when it says that "[a]nd though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him--a threefold cord is not quickly broken."

This is something that we talk about in Celebrate Recovery as well. Having a support team, comprised of accountability partners and a sponsor, along with regular fellowship and attendance at the meetings is crucial to facing down our personal demons. 

Regardless of whether it's an addiction, depression, co-dependency, or being unfairly attacked and maligned, a helping hand is most helpful indeed. It's even more helpful if you can find someone that has already walked that road before you. It gives you the hope that the obstacle can be surmounted. And it gives you the wisdom of someone that's already made the mistakes, so you don't have to make them again.

Jennifer is standing in the gap with a friend. I have no idea what life circumstances her friend is going through, and it's really none of my business, but it's obvious Jennifer has been there before. For being willing to share the pain, and share your wisdom, I thank you. And please tell your friend that she has my prayers.

For others that are struggling with life, regardless of what it may be, please know that there is hope, and there is help. Reach out to someone. Be willing to admit your weakness and cry out for help. You'd be surprised how many people are willing to stand in the gap with you.

I know I was.

For those that have friends that are struggling, please know that you can help. Be a friend. Lend your ear, not your judgement. One of their biggest fears is that people will be disappointed with them, or won't understand, or they'll be angry about it. Let them vent their spleen. Let them share. Stand in the gap with them, and it will make all the difference in the world.

I know it did for me.

The LORD bless you and keep you; the LORD make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; the LORD lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace.
Numbers 6:24-26 (ESV)

1 comment:

  1. Amen.
    And if you think it's too painful to walk again, do it anyway. Sometimes the doctor has to re-break a bone to set it right. Not only is it worth it to stand in the gap for your friend, but it will help heal your hurts as well.